,但一定是從你當時的選擇中能得到的最大快樂。嘗試一些新的東西,也許,你總是想嘗試更多,卻總覺得做不到。那麼,帶著一種尋根問底的態度去試試看吧,你可能會發現它們令你愉快,並想繼續下去;可能發現它們很好,但不值得繼續;也可能發現自己根本不喜歡,把它們刪除會感覺更好。嘗試並真正去經歷,會讓你的自我感覺更好,也會讓你對自己的能力更有信心。
… 心靈小語
在日常生活中,我們所接受的教育往往會使我們對自己產生懷疑,認為自己缺乏某種能力。但我們可以嘗試著去理解這種教育方式,並學習新的方式以增強自我認可度、自我認同感,真正地接受自己。
Learning to Accept Yourself
Anonymous
We are not born doubting ourselves。 We learn to do it。 In fact; we are usually taught to doubt ourselves。 Often we are taught to do so by otherwise well…meaning people who are passing along their own doubts and uncertainties and who believe they are being protective and caring。 What these people (usually parents and other significant adults) want are strong; capable and self…confident people; but they often inadvertently teach us thought processes that lead to something else。 That’s the bad news。 The good news is that we can understand some of these processes and learn new ways of coping that allow us to bee more accepting of ourselves。 Following are six behaviors you may have learned that can be unlearned and allow you to move toward greater self…acceptance。
Moralistic1 Self…judgment
One way to really dislike yourself is to always judge yourself in a very moralistic way。 People often spend a lot of time and energy labeling their behavior with moral adjectives such as “bad” “hateful” and “mean”。 When you apply these kinds of words to yourself you make liking yourself much more difficult。 There is a more productive way of looking