it。

Countless　people　tell　me　they　would　like　to　eat　better　but　don’t　want　to　“give　up”　tasty　food。　Rather　than　thinking　about　what　they　can’t　have；　they　should　think　about　what　they　can　eat。　Fruit　juice　with　sparkling　mineral　water　is　a　delicious　substitute　for　high…calorie　soft　drinks；　snacks　and　cookies　prepared　with　whole　grains　and　fried　fruits　give　candy　bars　good　petition。

It　isn’t　easy　to　change　old　habits。　An　overweight　woman　came　to　me　during　a　seminar　and　said；　“I’m　so　undisciplined。　I　can’t　stick　to　a　diet　and　my　house　is　always　a　mess。　I　feel　like　a　slob。”　I　told　her　she　wasn’t　totally　undisciplined。“You　made　it　to　this　conference。　You　arrive　promptly　at　each　session；　and　you　are　neatly　dressed。”　She　almost　smiled；　and　then　I　added；　“There’s　probably　a　reason　why　you　haven’t　been　able　to　lose　weight　or　get　your　home　in　order。”

Later；　I　found　out　there　was　a　big　reason。　She　was　widowed　a　year　before。　Her　husband　had　been　an　alcoholic　who　verbally　abused　her　all　24　years　of　their　marriage。　It　never　occurred　to　her　that　a　poor　self…image　was　keeping　her　from　effecting　positive　changes。　With　this　realization；　she　took　the　next　step　in　bringing　more　discipline　to　her　life　—　by　going　for　counseling。　Meanwhile；　some　of　her　friends　offered　to　e　to　her　house　and　help　her　clean　up；　putting　her　even　more　solidly　on　a　habit…changing　course。

Mind　over　matter　I　remember　my　school　days　and　Mom’s　regular　reveille，　“Time　to　get　up！”　I　agonized　in　bed　u