des；　reactions；　likes　and　dislikes　which　they’d　be　better　off　without。　Judgment　is　made　and　while　one　likes　one’s　positive　attitudes；　one　dislikes　the　others。　With　that　es　suppression　of　those　aspects　of　oneself　that　one　is　not　pleased　with。　One　doesn’t　want　to　know　about　them　and　doesn’t　acknowledge　them。　That’s　one　way　of　dealing　with　oneself；　which　is　detrimental2　to　growth。　電子書　分享網站

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Another　unskillful　way　is　to　dislike　that　part　of　oneself　which　appears　negative　and　every　time　it　arises　one　blames　oneself；　which　makes　matters　twice　as　bad　as　they　were　before。　With　that　es　fear　and　very　often　aggression。　If　one　wants　to　deal　with　oneself　in　a　balanced　way；　it’s　not　useful　to　pretend　that　the　unpleasant　part　doesn’t　exist；　those　aggressive；　irritable；　sensual；　conceited　tendencies。　If　we　pretend　we　are　far　from　reality　and　put　a　split　into　ourselves。　Even　though　such　a　person　may　be　totally　sane；　the　appearance　given　is　that　of　not　being　quite　real。　We’ve　all　e　across　people　like　that；　who　are　too　sweet　to　be　true；　as　a　result　of　pretense　and　suppression。　Blaming　oneself　doesn’t　work　either。　In　both　instances　one　transfers　one’s　own　reactions　to　other　people。　One　blames　others　for　their　deficiencies；　real　or　imagined；　or　one　doesn’t　see　them　as　ordinary　human　beings。　Everyone　lives　in　an　unreal　world；　because　it’s　ego…deluded；　but　this　one　is　particularly　unreal；　because　everything　is　considered　either　as　perfectly　wonderful　or　absolutely　terrible。